Saturday, September 24, 2005

My lazy day, bad news, and venting about TSIL

I have, once again, had a completely unproductive Saturday during which I did absolutely nothing! I slept in quite nicely, until around 1:00 in the afternoon. I know, I'm so lazy, and my laziness sometimes really pisses me off! I woke up at 8:30, thanks to little James pawing at my nose and walking back and forth over my back while meowing loudly - he LOVES getting fed! After I fed them, both James and Emma came back up on the bed with me and I was petting them and rubbing their little cheeks, and considered getting up right then, since I felt quite awake and also not hung over at all from the margaritas. But I decided that I really needed my sleep. And sleep I did.

When I finally got up, I moved my lazy ass to the couch. I couldn't use my computer because it was on the fritz again and not using power other than to charge the battery, but it wasn't doing that either. So I spent three hours watching episodes of Cathouse on HBO On Demand. I recorded my favorite one. And rabbitted a couple times. (I was planning to go get the Hitachi Magic Wand today, but as I was so lazy, I'll wait until tomorrow, and I can't wait to try it out!) After that I decided I needed a change, so I watched The Dreamers, again on HBO On Demand. I remember this movie being at Landmark a year or so ago, and I knew that it had a lot of sex in it, and was based in Paris. However, it was mostly very disturbing and weird. I usually like arthouse-type films, but the relationship between brother and sister in this movie was just wrong, and even the atmosphere of these three people living in the same house and hardly ever leaving, and just drinking all the time and not even having food to eat, was depressing. There was a lot of sex and lots of nudity - full nudity - mostly of the girl, Eva Green, who has an absolutely amazing body. But there was also plenty of nudity with regard to the two guys, and quite a few views of cock. Normally, I'd like all the sex and all the nudity. But the movie was just so weird and disturbing, and I couldn't understand why the third guy would realistically want to stay with this brother and sister, and I found myself waiting for it to be over, and that was only at a quarter-way through! I did watch the whole thing though, just because I can't not finish a movie. I was happy when it was over.

On a completely different note, yesterday at work my boss got really bad news about his wife, and I saw him flustered for the very first time ever about her, which was really scary. His wife has had melanoma for years; it's probably been at least five years since she had her first cancerous mole removed. And for the past three years since I've worked there, she has had cancerous moles removed almost monthly from one calf, which is where the cancer was seeming to stay. She has had three procedures over the past three years, always focusing just on the leg. The most recent one was just a month ago, and she's still recovering from it. For the past couple years, she has also had monthly PET scans, to ensure that the cancer hasn't metastisized (sp?) into other organs. A month ago, the scan showed two dark areas in her lungs. And she got the results of a CAT scan back on Friday - the two spots have both grown, making it almost certain that the cancer has metastisized and is now in her lungs. My boss has been in denial about the seriousness and severity of her cancer since I first met him. On Friday, when he came in to tell The Meat and I what they found out, he was so flustered. He couldn't even remember whether he shut his office door, and said "I'm just not thinking very clearly right now." He left two seconds later. I feel so awful for him and for his wife. They will be going to a doctor sometime next week, as soon as she can get in. They've seen that doctor before and discussed doing an experimental treatment called Bio-Chemotherapy. I don't know whether the treatment will have to be altered to deal with the lung cancer specifically. I am going to be so good from now on and get to work by 9:30 every day, because my boss needs all the help and support and lack of stress as possible now. I have just never seen him flustered like that. His wife is only 52, and she will probably not live too many more years, all because of melanoma, which I'd always heard was one of the worst cancers, but never realized why.

I have to worry, too, because I have really light skin, strawberry blond hair, and light green eyes - a perfect candidate for skin cancer. My mom had a melanoma removed from her forearm a year ago. I always wear high spf lotion now, and even my daily face lotion has spf 30 in it, but I have had a number of bad burns when I was younger. Not tons, but some. After what has happened to my boss's wife, it really scares me. She's so young, and won't live a full life, which is so unfair. I don't want that to happen to me!

Jumping around again - my brother and TSIL are moving to Atlanta. They'd been thinking of moving there, and my brother flew down a couple weeks ago and had a couple interviews there. He got an offer that he likes, and he's starting there October 12. The Bitch/TSIL is going to move laterally from her current hotel to the hotel in Atlanta. So this Monday through Wednesday, Little Brother is driving down there to find an apartment for them. He only wants to rent for six months and then plans on buying a place. He's been obsessed with buying a a house since he was about five years old. So he'll be happy.

I'm torn about him moving there. On the one hand, I will get to go visit him there, and I'd love to see and explore Atlanta. But also, Atlanta is so much further away than Indianapolis, and now when he and The Bitch come to visit, it will either be by flying or by driving a long way, and so he'll have more excuses to not visit for just a weekend.

Now, to The Bitch/TSIL. My mom emailed me last weekend and said that TSIL was still bringing up to my brother how I changed out of my dress early, and how she never told me I could change or take my hair down. She is such a fucking cunt. It's been over six weeks since their wedding and she's still fucking pissed off about that! She needs to get a fucking life. Anyway, my mom told me that she keeps putting my brother in the middle because he's getting the brunt of it, since he obviously lives with her. And my mom wants me to just apologize to my brother for not waiting for him to ask TSIL before I changed, and she said to also apologize to TSIL if it really comes down to it. I will apologize to my brother, but only after pointing out first why I changed, and second how The Bitch acted towards me the whole day, not to mention the whole weekend. I will not apologize to her. Not unless I can point out her every single bitchy behavior of that weekend to her first.

Also, she has told my brother that the only thing I did the entire day of the wedding was complain about my hair. That is such complete fucking bullshit. She never even spoke to me once, so I don't know how she'd know anyway. But I didn't. No, I didn't like my hair. And I know I said to a couple bridesmaids a couple times that I couldn't wait to take it out. But we were all together from 8:30 a.m. until the wedding at 3:30 p.m. So me making maybe four comments does not add up to me "complaining the whole day." I tried laughing with the other bridesmaids, I talked with them, I took pictures of everyone, I exclaimed over TSIL's hair and dress and everything, I talked to the photographer about photography, and during the hour at lunch I laughed at all the funny stories and only was pissed at TSIL since she hadn't made eye contact with me all day and was purposefully being a little spoiled cunt-bitch. So the fact that she's LYING about me to my brother, and continuously bringing up me changing, makes me first of all want to smack the little whore, and second, makes me really believe that she's trying to turn my brother against me.

Which won't happen, but she's setting the stage for not hanging out with my family as much. It's no secret, based on her behavior and things she said to family members while wasted at her rehearsal dinner, that she doesn't like my mom at all. And she doesn't like me either, since I don't fawn all over her. And even though I don't want my brother to be hurt, I hope they get a divorce within three years. The sooner the better. She's such a bitch anyway. And EVERYONE sees it except for her family and my brother!!! All my brother's friends think she's extreme high maintenance and a complete bitch. Everyone on my brother's side at the wedding who met her for the first time at the wedding, or even met her a few times before, all know that she's a bitch. My brother is THE ONE AND ONLY who doesn't see this. And I wouldn't be surprised if she cheated on him eventually. One of my brother's fraternity brothers lives in Atlanta, and my brother has even said that he worried about this guy and TSIL at certain points. And when I visited my brother at college and saw TSIL with this guy, I firmly believed that she had a thing for him. Also of note - her mother, who she adores, cheated on TSIL's biological father with her now stepfather, and I believe she divorced him while pregnant with TSIL. And then her mom turned TSIL completely against her biological father.

My brother emailed me this week to tell me about his move. I'm going to call him on Monday when he's on his way to Atlanta, and without The Bitch, and I'll talk to him about everything then, including finally addressing her nagging of him about me changing. I won't let him know that I hate her, but I will tell him about her behavior, even though he makes excuses for every single time that she's a bitch - which is pretty much all the time. She's a fucking cunt whore asswipe fucking spoiled little bitch! And even that isn't strong enough language!!!!! I need some more really terrible words, but none are coming to mind.

Plans for tomorrow: get my Hitachi Magic Wand, do some laundry, clean my kitchen, maybe go for a walk along the lake, and finish an opinion. I won't sleep in until 1:00 tomorrow afternoon. Instead, I'll set my alarm for 9:30 a.m.!

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

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♥ I think that the most beautiful women I've ever met are the ones that know who they are, have stories to tell, ideas to share, wisdom to impart and love the skin they're in. No one can love us as we love ourselves. No one can take away our beauty and our dignity when we own those things. To me confident=beautiful. :: CeeCi

♥ I'd been feeling a little blue (for no particular reason) when I began thinking about things like attention, age and body image. Suddenly, it washed over me. I see people looking at me and I see them reacting. I began thinking about the times I notice the attention and realized its the days I'm strutting, the days I'm open and holding my head up. This got me to thinking further. How I perceive myself is what I show to others...People don't realize it, but they show the world everything about themselves in the way they move and act, in the words they say and the way they say them. A little confidence can lead to a lot of confidence. :: CeeCi

♥ When we believe in ourselves the world is an entirely different place and our place in it feels right and happy and healthy. :: CeeCi

♥ Remember that something incredibly wonderful is always possible!

♥ There are moments that are wonderful, if you let them be.

♥ Being distrustful put me in a very lonely place, a place filled with doubt and hypervigilance. I'm grateful I've learned to trust again, because in learning to do it, I learned to trust myself. :: CeeCi

♥ We're all a work in progress. I believe we will be until the day our lives end. Why fight it? I love the changes I experience. Some are certainly easier and more enjoyable than others, yet I wouldn't stop the process for any thing in the world. :: CeeCi

♥ We may run, walk, stumble, drive, or fly, but let us never lose sight of the reason for the journey, or miss the chance to see a rainbow on the way :: Gloria Gaither

♥ Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed :: Storm Jameson

♥ Love is everything. It is the reason we are here, and the wonder we take with us wherever we go.

♥ Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow :: Mary Anne Radmacher

♥ Just live in the moment, the moment you're in. Don't live two days from now. Don't live two hours in advance. Live now. And appreciate what you have now. Don't go any further. You have this moment. This second. Breathe it. Enjoy it. Live in it. :: Open Eyes

♥ Leap, and the net will appear.

♥ I've learnt that when we express our deepest feelings, even though we may stammer or be unable to find the right words, it always pays. It pays to be authentic.

♥ There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year's course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness :: Carl Jung

♥ I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge, myth is more potent than history, dreams are more powerful than facts, hope always triumphs over experience, laughter is the cure for grief, love is stronger than death :: Robert Fulghum

♥ You must learn day by day, year by year, to broaden your horizon. The more things you love, the more you are interested in, the more you enjoy, the more you are indignant about, the more you have left when anything happens. :: Ethel Barrymore

♥ Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. :: Carl Jung

♥ I will try to be as honest as I can with myself. That is all that is required of me. I'll keep admitting and opening my hidden box of fears, hurts and insecurities, again and again, until I know each one of them by their first name. :: Anu

♥ It struck me that there is amazing beauty everywhere. Does it matter where you are or who we're encountering? There is magic all around us. The fact that we're alive, the fact that we're living in this place and time. The fact that we've met the people we've met, all of it, every bit of it, only contributes to the wonder that is life. :: CeeCi

♥ No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the starts, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit. :: Helen Keller

♥ Half of doing anything is believing that you can.

♥ Often God has to shut a door in our face, so that he can subsequently open the door through which he wants us to go. :: Catherine Marshall

♥ Even if it burns a little low at times, the secret of life is to always keep the flame of hope alive.

♥ The three grand essentials of happiness are something to do, someone to love, and something to hope for.

♥ Some people will say that you are going the wrong way, when it is simply a way of your own.

♥ Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. Great dancers are not great because of their technique, they are great because of their passion. :: Martha Graham

♥ Life is a series of new beginnings, and in every ordinary moment there are a thousand miracles to behold.

♥ Don't let the approval of others determine your belief in yourself.

♥ When it's all said and done, when all the opinions have been uttered, preached, shouted, and shared, there is only one thing we can do: From this moment on...love.

♥ When you're stuck in a spiral, to change all aspects of the spin you need only to change one thing. :: Christina Baldwin

♥ You have to look for the joy. Look for the light of God that is hitting your life, and you will find sparkles you didn't know were there.

♥ Be the change you wish to see in the world... :: Gandhi

♥ Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

♥ We each have only a limited amount of time here. We have to do more with it - pay attention, explore, be open to all of life. Because we have only one chance, we have to make life seem longer than it really is. :: Viggo Mortensen

♥ Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible. :: Cadet Maxim

♥ Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore! Dream! Discover!

♥ What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? :: Unknown

♥ To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. :: David Viscott, M.D

♥ Right now it feels like:...no dream will ever remain unfulfilled...no desire will ever remain unanswered...no tear goes unnoticed and no effort wasted...the hills are alive and so are we...each moment is fresh and waiting to happen...and there will be garbage like situations all around...but it is upto us to light mud lamps in it...and glow in our own acceptance and appreciations... :: Anu

♥ I struggle with not feeling like I'm good enough at times. Usually, its because I'm pushing it too hard and have depleted my reserve. Yet, I know without a shadow of a doubt that no matter how heavy or thin, how young or old I appear to others it's what I feel on the inside that glows through. If I could give every person on this planet just one gift it would be the unwavering knowledge that they are beautiful and worthy of every good thing the universe holds. :: CeeCi

♥ It's easier to buy into the negative things we conjure about ourselves than the positive things. Knowing that is the first step towards changing the thoughts that keep us unhappy. With time moving forward, why stay trapped in the past? All we have is right here and right now, I intend to make the most of it! :: CeeCi